Warning Signs
Usually there are signs that violence may erupt in a relationship. Because the signs are subtle and, because the individual cares about the batterer and believes it was a one-time incident, the signs are often overlooked or even dismissed.
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Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you.
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Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive.
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Tries to isolate you from family or friends.
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Monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with.
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Does not want you to work.
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Controls finances or refuses to share money.
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Punishes you by withholding affection.
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Expects you to ask permission.
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Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets.
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Humiliates you in any way.
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Damaged property when angry (threw objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
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Pushed, slapped, bit, kicked or choked you.
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Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
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Scared you by driving recklessly.
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Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you.
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Forced you to leave your home.
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Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving.
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Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
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Hurt your children.
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Used physical force in sexual situations.
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Views their partner as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
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Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
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Wants you to dress in a sexual way.
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Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names.
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Has ever forced or manipulated you into to having sex or performing sexual acts.
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Held you down during sex.
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Demanded sex when you were sick, tired or after beating you.
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Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex.
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Involved other people in sexual activities with you.
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Ignored your feelings regarding sex.
Source:
“Take Steps to Protect Yourself from Relationship Violence.” Healthfinder.gov. N.p., 29 July 2015. Web. http://healthfinder.gov/HealthTopics/Category/everyday-healthy-living/mental-health-and-relationship/take-steps-to-protect-yourself-from-relationship-violence#the-basics_2